The whole point of a wedding is union. The entire reason that you have spent all this money, done all this work, and put all this time in in the build up to your big day, is so that you can be bonded together permanently and never have to be apart.
That’s the idea anyway, but as we all know it doesn’t always turn out that way. What’s really surprising and unfortunate though, is when you don’t even make it that far and when you end up breaking up before you’ve even gotten the chance to stand before the congregation. The problem is, that while weddings are all about joining two people together – they sure do give you a lot of reasons to consider parting.
Here we will look at how you can ensure that doesn’t happen, and how you can avoid arguments with your partner.
The first thing to ensure if you’re going to avoid arguments is that you’re being fair and reasonable. When you’ve waited your whole life to get married, you of course want it to go your way – but remember that the most important aspect of that is that you get married to someone who still loves you. Ask yourself whether you’re giving them as many decisions as you’re taking for yourself, and whether you’d be happy if the roles were reverse. If you’re winning every dispute, then make sure that you give them something to compensate.
If you want to have a stress and argument free wedding, then you should plan it that way as much as possible right from the start. In other words, try to keep the costs down, make sure that there are lots of moments where everyone can just enjoy themselves rather than being rushed from one thing to the next. The more manageable your day is, the more chance there will be of it all going well.
Here’s a quick way to make the planning less stressful – just don’t do all of it yourself. By hiring wedding planners, florists and other professionals, you can take a bit of the pressure off of yourself and you can introduce an objective third party to help make decisions and settle disputes. This makes a big difference, so don’t try to skip it in order to save money.
For the remaining small tasks, splitting up the things you have to do and having areas that you can work autonomously in can also help to avoid arguments. Give your partner invitations to send then for instance, and then just make sure that you aren’t always chipping in.
Find Things You Can Both Get Really Excited About
You might find a lot of things that you disagree on when you’re planning your big day, but of course there will always be those things that you’re both super excited about too. Try to focus on those things, and try to find more like them. That might mean riding in a wedding limousine, or it might be booking your amazing honeymoon. This is a wedding after all – there’s an awful lot to be excited about.
This guest post is authored by Vanessa faith. She is a passionate blogger and her favourite topics are fashion and weddings. She is a fun loving person who likes to attend social gatherings and meet new people.